Vanessa of abuse where mutual respect and inclusiveness

Vanessa MbuyiFor my community assignment, I attended the New Horizons domestic violence advocacy training program which took place at the First Baptist church in La Crosse. The training was for three days, from September 25th to September 27th. New Horizons shelter and outreach center is an organization that works on advocacy against domestic and sexual abuse. Their mission is to provide safety and services to adults and families who have experienced domestic and sexual abuse. Their philosophy is to oppose all forms of dominance over others, and they support people of all ages, regardless gender, sexual orientation, race, color, religion, national origin, social class or differing abilities to live without fear, abuse and violence. Their vision is to be a leader in promoting a community culture free of abuse where mutual respect and inclusiveness thrive.  During this training, we had different presenters talking about different subjects and services that New Horizons does for the community.I had a wonderful experience going to the New Horizons training. I have learned a lot from them during the three days that I have participated. Being a part of the training was worth it for me, and I do not regret the fact that I went there for the training. I did not go just because of the class, but I was interested in learning more about being an advocate for people who are going through difficult times, and for those who need help. I also wanted to know what precautions they take to help people in the shelter or those who are in need. I am glad that we were introduced to different options by the instructor. The pre-planning process went well; I like the fact that we were given several options to choose and had the opportunity of choosing where to go. All the different options were described a briefly in class by the instructor, and the option of going to the new horizons was the first that I chose. The thing that motivated me the most to participate in this training was to go and get knowledge so I could bring it to my country for a better future, we need this type of organization and training to help mostly women and everybody in general. I will not say that I was interested in going there just so I could help my country, I wanted to participate in the training to go and learn what is happening around the place where I live because it is almost like my second home and you need to care about what is happening in the community. when I moved to La Crosse, sexual harassments, sexual assault and privilege was topic that I heard the most around the campus, and I was scared because it was my first time to hear people talking about it, almost everywhere. It made me think also about the test that I had to take when I got accepted here, it was all about sexual harassment and safety. I didn’t take it seriously; it took me hours to complete it and at first I was not taking it seriously. Then when I realized the amount of time that it took me I panicked, I said to myself probably it is true, I need to be careful in that city. When this option was given to me I wanted to seize it to be an advocate for others, so we can make a better future together.I was curious and motivated to go to study more about this topic, because I was still not sure about the things that I took in that test. My idea of the USA was that it was a place where these types of things could not happen. I was thinking that the US was a safe place and none of this could happen. Since I usually see how everything is great on the TV, this shows me that it is not good to just judge what I see or hear from other people. That is why I wanted to go and learn and see if it was true that these types of things could happen here in a small city like La Crosse. This makes me think of the TED Talk, “the danger of a single story” that we listened to in class, the young Nigerian girl who said that we risk a serious misinterpretation if we hear only a single story about another person or country. My experience at the New Horizons helped me see the problems in the USA. Being a part of the training for the all three days, helped me and shaped my understanding to be aware of things that are going on around the place that I am living in and how important it is to be careful. Worldview, I can say anything can happen in any country no matter if the country is a developed country or not but the most important thing for the population to do is to be careful and to report anything that happen so it is going to be easy to fix and make the place safer. The three points that I would like to connect my project with, are: Gender, race, sexuality. These are the main points that plays a role in what I have learned in the training. So, we had different instructor during all the three days with different topics. They shared their views about different type of services that they do with the organization such as: Rural advocacy, legal advocacy, trauma informed care, crisis advocacy, working with Latin population, diversity advocacy, intersectionality advocacy, Legal advocacy, Nova, Dart, youth and family advocacy a mandated reporting, white privilege and working with the African American population, working with the Hmong population, sexual assault advocacy and anti-trafficking advocacy. After participating in the training, I have noticed that the organization works with people according to race, gender and sexual orientation. This project shaped my understanding in seeing how, the lives of women have been changing in the past. Historically, women have all along been mistreated among various races, but as time goes by, the notion is changing for the better. However, their lives have changed, mostly, positively but also at some point, it has even turned negatively. In the past, women from various walks of lives and races have been treated differently with most of them being oppressed like those from African and Asian origins. The paper discusses how women lives have changed throughout history and the factors that have directed the transformation.           In the past, women were not allowed to decide on their own mainly because they were dependent on men for survival. Positively, women have could achieve a milestone in such a way that they have been accorded equal to men and have access to many things like proper education and good jobs. In the modern day, careers have changed the women for the worst because they are making high salary, thus high maintenance.  Gender and racial stereotypes in the modern history are faced with profound consequences. However, this phenomenon of gendered race has affected our personal and professional decisions mostly in a negative way. Various races have the habit of treating males and females differently such that they have various responsibilities.            Mostly the African and Asian cultures have remained adamant to their cultures that they tend to oppress women in a way that they fail to change, even with changing times. In the past, women mostly in Africa did not have the right to make significant decisions involving family matters and the society in general. They were expected to fully submit most of their things to their husbands, and they could not own anything. Moreover, they were not permitted to go to the school whereby education was only for the males in the past.                   Within the United States, Asians are perceived as being more feminine when they are compared to the whites, while the blacks are on the contrary viewed as more masculine than the whites are. Furthermore, this shows that for a fact race is gendered in a way that it affects participation in various activities and minimal interracial marriage.   In most of the Asian cultures, women are educated on how to relate with other individuals by their parents or elders. Most of these relationship traits transcend in their lives.  However, women are more attracted to black men because they have more masculinity, and thus this tends to explain the relationship between gender and race. The experiences encountered by women either at work or home are substantially determined by the by their social class. Women in higher social level tend to be treated better and appreciated more as compared to those who are disadvantaged. A reflection can be depicted when categorizing the gender-class differences in such a way that it affects both the beliefs about employment and their behaviors while interacting with other’s life.           Social classes in the society are predetermined by gender. Men in most cases tend to occupy higher status.  It is mostly evident among Africans and Asians, where social classes exist. Gender has a huge contribution when it comes to employment opportunities, whereby certain jobs are perceived as either feminine or masculine.             Women who are employed are expected to be more friendly and sympathetic especially when dealing with their employers, customers or even co-workers. Moreover, the expectations are that they should be able to withstand other people’s anger and frustrations. However, some kinds of expectations tend to be very limiting regarding how they should counter different situations about how women are viewed by the public and the concerns of various stakeholders.                 Women who are working in male-dominated careers tend to be faced with gender-based bias such that they may be viewed as they are unable to do certain things with perfection. Moreover, this makes the women in these careers as incapable of conducting some of their duties better despite them being as equally qualified as compared to their male counterparts.         Women who are low in the social class tend to concentrate more on the parenting roles as opposed to those in a higher level, who are readily outgoing to face new challenges and counter them. Because of tough economic times, securing a viable employment has been challenging.  Most industries and small private firms require employees who are intellect and can interact comfortably with the new technologies. Women from low economic status in most cases have low education. Consequently, they are not able to advance their skills, as they are costly.              Mostly, gender has a reflection upon a division of various kind of work in both the private and public sector. Women tend to be given jobs that are more feminine in nature whereby these are pre-determined by different cultures. In the recent past, both genders are working contrary to the society’s expectations, and thus breaking the norms to meet day-to-day activities that proof to be difficult. Gendered sexuality can be viewed in the way that the sex of a person has an impact due to the perceptions concerning their sexuality. In most of the cultures, it is considered feminine to wear a dress or a skirt, such that biologically characteristics of various genders tend to vary. Male and their female counterparts experience multiple changes upon maturity whereby that should happen.                The link between sexuality and gender is that of expectations and norms are set so that it can act as a guideline as to how women and men, also how boys and girls should behave in respect to certain things within the society. Moreover, attributes various social roles, activities and even behaviors that are assigned to multiple men and women according to the culture and norms in any given society.             In the past, most cultures viewed girls and women as more vulnerable to various pressures and needed protection. Nevertheless, virginity was mostly highly prized and often linked to dignity and in maintaining a higher social class within the society. However, in many societies’ women and girls were expected not to comment on the issues surrounding sex and sexuality. Most of these decisions were to be made by men without putting into consideration the views of their female counterparts.              In conclusion, women lives have been changing from time to time such that many campaigns have been organized in many countries for the empowerment of the girl child. Often, this has been important for the creation of equal opportunities among different genders and in the reduction on stereotypes. There is the need for changing our perception of viewing female as the weaker generation as this will help in the growth of our society and reduce the notion of either male or female-dominated jobs.